How to Use Your Eyes to Develop Effective Communication Skills

Cliché as it is, the eyes are indeed the windows of the soul. The eye body language is one of the most powerful mediums of nonverbal communication. It can either support or betray whatever you are saying. Even the slightest movement of the eye can indicate the biggest meaning.

Eye Contact

During a conversation, it is normal to have eye contact. It means differently in specific situations. Looking at a person directly to the eye means that you are interested in what he is saying. But the inability to take the eyes of another person when he or she is talking may also indicate doubt, suspicion, or lack of trust.

Appropriate use of eye contact also includes when to break eye contact. A long eye contact has many interpretations. It may mean a focused attention or sign of attraction. But this can sometimes be uncomfortable, thus the trick is to just look at the bridge of the nose. Long eye contact may also indicate a sign of authority or domination if one can do it without much blinking. However, prolonged eye contact may also pose as a threat, so breaking it from now and then is essential. But breaking it may indicate other meanings as well, such as situations wherein one wants to end the conversation, has been insulted or found out, or is being threatened.

Eye Movements

The eyes looking at different directions also have different meanings. When one looks up to the right, it means that he is imagining visual images.  Meanwhile, when he looks up to the left direction, it means that he is trying to recall a memory. However, there are still instances where it is in a reversed order, depending on the person. Try to test him first by asking him to recall a known memory and to picture out an event.

On the other hand, looking down may mean that one is talking to himself, but this is more evident if there is also movement of the lips. It is also a signal of guilt or submission. Looking down on another person means that he is control of the situation or is talking to someone who is under his superiority.

Lateral eye movements can also indicate signs of dishonesty, distraction, or simply checking out the surroundings. When looking from one eye to the other then going up to the forehead, it means that you are looking at somebody with superiority. When going down to the nose, you are talking to someone within the level of your status. And when looking from one eye to the other and down to the lips, it indicates a sign of attraction or romance.

Eyes of Expression

Different emotions and mood can be expressed through gazing, glancing, winking, squinting, closing, and staring. Gazing indicates interest or concentration. Glancing indicates desire. For example, one glances at food. It means the food is desirable to eat. Winking indicates an agreement and it could also be a means of flirtation. A person squints his eyes when he is uncertain or trying to evaluate or verify truthfulness. Closing the eyes means that the person wants a moment to be away from the world or simply trying to remember. And lastly, staring indicates a state of shock, surprise or disbelief.

Eyes of Romance and Flirtation

You can use your eyes to show affection to another person. Winking is one way to flirt. The process of looking at someone, quickly looking away, and then staring back is an obvious indication of attraction. A lingering, warm gaze is also an indicator of romance or desire.

If you know how to read and understand the eye body language, you will know what the person you are conversing with would want to tell you. And, if you know how to properly use it, you can take control of any situation or know when the proper time to use different eye movements or expressions is.

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Creating Drama Adds Charisma to Your Public Speaking

Timing is essential when speaking in public. The cliché, “It is not what you say, but how you say it” applies a great deal to public speaking. Where you put your pauses creates drama during your presentation, which maintains an audience’s interest. Throw some humor in and you have them right where you want them.

Do not forget that when you expect laughter to burst at any time, pause after the punch line before being drowned out by the roar of the audience.  Make sure to remember that laughter is extremely difficult to get, so don’t pander to the audience.  Speak conversationally about a funny situation related to your presentation and let the audience find its own humor. Never say, “A funny thing happened….” This telegraphs your attempt at humor and can fall flat if the audience doesn’t find your story funny. You’ll be given a charitable chuckle.

The audience size could also affect the way you use your timing. When the audience is small, the presentation you have will most probably be delivered in less time compared to a large audience. Also, the reaction of a large audience will be longer and not as quick compared to a smaller audience.  As a result, you have to wait until the ripple effect of your punch line gets to your audience in the back row.

Believe it or not, putting that much needed silence in your presentation is one of the hallmarks of a skilled and good presenter. No public speaker should jabber constantly away in the hopes of keeping an audience glued to a presentation with no end in sight.  Good speakers add signposts to their presentation by implying that the end of a presentation is near whether they are at the end or not. Mentally, it makes the audience feel that if they hold on a little longer, it will be all over soon. No matter how captivating you may be, an audience mentally begins to shut down if you don’t provide those signposts. 

Short pauses are effective to use in order to separate your thoughts. These pauses last from half a second to two. You do not have to literally count though, just keep in mind to slow down. This gives the audience a chance to absorb all of your information.  It also helps if you change the inflection in your voice during the end of a thought as this could also signal to the audience that another thought is coming their way. Pauses are also an effective means if you want to highlight something.  Put a pause before any word or thought you want the audience to focus on to sink in.

Creating drama through pauses allows you to be more charismatic and engaging with audiences. A great presentation is a like a chess match. Even if you are leading, you want to draw the audience in by letting them come to you.

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The Secrets of “Watchability” in Charismatic Speakers

"Watchability." Both my spell checker and an online dictionary tell me that "watchability" is not a real word. However, I will continue to use it because, in my opinion, the ability to be watchable may be the single most important trait a speaker can have.

I view talk shows, religious sermons, presidential debates, and any occasion where a person is providing information to determine his charisma and watchability. Some speakers are better than others, but the main factor common to all charismatic speakers is their ability to speak from a place of authenticity. In other words, charismatic speakers have found a speaking style that fits their personality and unique manner of self-expression.

So what is watchability? It is, to be a bit redundant, the characteristic of being watchable. Said another way, the ability to grab an audience based on sheer personality and force of ideas. People enjoy watching and listening to magnetic speakers. The amazing thing is that if you are watchable, then even if you mess up or if your content or delivery isn't up to par, the audience will enjoy it. The ultimate goal is to have great content and delivery while being amazingly watchable. The challenge is that while content and delivery are easily viewable traits, watchability is abstract. It's easy to watch speakers and critique how they move or use facial expressions. You can listen and critique inflection, pace, and vocal variety. The value of their content is easy to immediately judge. Watchability, however, is like charisma. You can't define it at the moment, but you know it when you see and feel it.

However, I have observed a few things that all charismatic speakers do:



1. They are themselves. These speakers speak from the heart and in a style that is true to them. They don't use other people's words or unnatural body movements that a coach taught them. They give you the impression that if the two of you were hanging out for dinner, they would say the same thing in the same way. They are comfortable. Charismatic speakers look right at home on stage.

2. They are experienced and know the material inside and out. Charismatic speakers literally can speak for hours without the use of notes on a subject that they have researched and exhibit passion about. As voracious readers, they have analyzed every angle of a subject to provide a balance viewpoint. Rarely will this speaker be challenged to respond clearly and succinctly during the questions and answers part of a presentation.

3. They are not afraid of failure. While they want to communicate their message and please their audience, they are not wrapped up into it. They are satisfied to merely get on stage and do their best, because they have done the work to identify and solve a problem germane to the audience. If the audience likes it--- great; if not, it's not the end of the world. They are having fun playing in the field of ideas. You have probably seen a speaker (even a "professional") who looks like they don't want to be on stage. Charismatic speakers have fun. Even if their topic is serious, they clearly act as if they want to be on that stage. They view it as an honor and a privilege. Whether it stems from fear, arrogance, burn-out, or some mysterious other factor, when a speaker would rather be somewhere else, an audience can feel it.

Practice implementing these three ideas: be yourself, get comfortable, and have fun. You can instantly and drastically increase the value of your speech without changing a single word if you do this. You will, in one word, become "watchable."

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Persuasive Speech Topics That Capture Your Audience's Full Attention!

First, if you are looking for a charismatic or persuasive or speech topic, you must know that the more controversial the speech topic, the more response you will get from your audiences.  The topic sentence has to be short, declarative sentence that states the central idea of your speech. Your persuasive speech topics should zero in on one main idea rather than focusing on entirely different areas.  If you are looking for science related speech topics, there are plenty of those in the science forums. It is relatively easy to join forums.   A visual presentation is sure to bring your informative speech topics to a whole new level of interest.

Choosing a persuasive speech topic for your presentation is not an easy task. Introduce the topic with a statement of fact and support that statement with the main points of your speech. Write a purpose statement by stating the goal and topic for a speech and specifying the method to be used in developing the speech.  This means you will have to research your topic and work your sources into your speech and outline.

The more controversial your persuasive speech topic, the harder challenge you are creating for yourself, and the more you'll learn. Interest the listeners in the topic, purpose, and issues of the speech. Developing a topic and identifying the purpose of a speech will aid in the organization and direction of the overall performance.  You will get enthusiastic applause...perhaps even a standing ovation, every time you speak if you develop informative speech topics which are slightly controversial in nature! However, don’t go for total shock value. If you emphasize both the positive and negative characteristics of your topic in order to provide a well-balanced speech, you will definitely make your speech more interesting! Also, by instilling passion, you are seen as a charismatic speaker who can inspire others past their self-induced limitations.
So, the idea here is to first pick a topic and then list down the positive and negative characteristics of your topic. It will stimulate your mind in more ways than you can imagine, and could easily spawn dozens of speech topic ideas.

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Speaking Precisely to Demonstrate Value and Expertise

You can express yourself better if you learn the proper words to use for each situation.  You can pick up these words by reading good books and articles. Just be careful you don't pronounce something incorrectly in your head, and then speak that way in public. People will think you're ignorant. I remember listening to a radio talk show one time when a man called in and mispronounced a word. The guest, who disagreed with him, attacked his mispronunciation, and the host was clearly embarrassed for the caller. All in all, it was just an awkward moment.  And you definitely don't want to be initiating awkward moments while trying to drum up business.

Pronunciations do vary depending on your locale and you could just say that's how it's pronounced where you're from. But there are usually only a few alternatives and most educated people know of them.  You can learn proper pronunciation by listening to intelligent people. If intelligent people are rare where you live, buy some tapes or visit some podcast directories. However, some well-read people do mispronounce words they read all the time but never hear. Use them as a general guide.

 If you found a great word in a book that you're not sure about, check it out at Dictionary.com. They have a pronunciation guide, and, if you want to speak precisely, you can sign up for their premium service. They have a feature where you can click on a word and hear the proper pronunciation.

At any rate, just make sure you know how the word is pronounced and what it means, before you use it. Nothing sounds worse than someone using big words out of context. There's nothing wrong with using big words, though, as long as you're using them correctly. A friend once told me, “I hate when people use words out of content.” I said, “Do you mean, out of context?” She laughed at her error. I didn’t mean to embarrass her, but she was on tirade about people using words incorrectly.

Don't use a big word just because you know it. Only use a bigger word if it's the only word available to express exactly what you mean. Most people have very small vocabularies and will tune you out if you start talking over their heads.  If you're talking with experts, you'll probably want to use shortcuts (jargon). This can save time.  Just don't use jargon outside specific groups, because it'll sound like gibberish to most people. You can learn this jargon by reading industry-specific journals and visiting message boards.

Speaking precisely isn't that hard.  Just use the right word at the right time. That knowledge will only come with experience.

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What's the Difference Between a Boss and a Leader?

Every leader is a boss. But every boss is not the leader. This defines the difference between a boss and a leader. The biggest difference between a boss and a leader is one. The boss is respected and obeyed because of his seniority. A leader is respected and looked up to as an example not only because of seniority but mainly because of the qualities of character and ability.

Those who aspire to become leaders must lead by example. The team must always have a firm belief that the leader will be there during every crisis. Not to fix the blame, but fix the problem. If the team members find that the leader does not follow what he preaches, they will have no respect for him. They may obey him, but the respect will be missing. Leaders gain this respect by their actions. They look and act sincerely. There is no mismatch between their words and actions. They look integral in approach and character.

To be a leader, every boss must display characteristics such as knowledge, planning, anticipation, foresight, action, result oriented approach, perspective, respect every team member, earn their respect, act as a friend and act as a mentor. This is quite a list, but if you want to become a good leader you need these qualities. This is true not only for national leaders but for persons in every leadership position in any organization. Once a person earns the respect of his team members he ceases to be only a boss and transforms into a leader.

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How Charismatic Leaders Speak to Touch the Heart

Presentations and seminars become all too familiar in the business world.  Jim Speaker is there with the overhead projector and PowerPoint slides-each with four of five points.  Hours later the seminar is over.  Seminars are informative but can be deadly. Just give me the handout and I’ll read it at home! It takes a dynamic and charismatic presenter to step out from behind the lectern and shake up and motivate their audience.

Facts touch or mind, but it is the power that comes from stories that touch hearts. Everybody loves a story. Stories give us insight life and human nature.  They can make us laugh and they can make us cry.  Storytelling will go beyond the bullet points and will make a memorable impression on the heart that can change a life. 

As a speaker, you can use stories to give your presentation the impact that you desire to:

• Tell inspirational stories to persuade, motivate or entertain.  Use stories to illustrate the point you want to make. Try to find stories that are relevant to the audience.  For example, for software engineers, tell a story about the young engineer who started a company in his garage and how Microsoft changed the world.

• Tell a story from your own experience.  Make a habit of keeping a story journal and record your day’s experiences.  You will have a rich supply of unique experiences to draw from to illustrate your point. 

• Use gestures and acting techniques to bring your story to life.  Don’t just tell your audience about a difficult client; get up and show them.  Actions have a greater impact on the point you are making. 

• Use description and dialogue.  Take your audience into the story by using description and dialogue. Help them visualize and feel that they are part of the experience.

• Practice your story until it’s natural.  Use the pacing and rhythm to communicate your message to your audience.  Listen to a tape recording of yourself.  Check how you have varied the tone of your voice and your speed to create the biggest impact in your story.

Remember it’s not about you; it’s about your audience.  You have a great story and an important message to convey.  By concentrating on your audience, you will become more confident and relaxed. This will result in your audience feeling comfortable and more receptive to your message.

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Improvisational Comedy for Speakers Who Want to Electrify Audiences

Public speaking.  For some, the mere thought of getting up in front of a group of people and presenting a speech is more terrifying than heights, snakes, or even death.  Imagine how terrified those people would be if they were asked to get in front of an audience and speak with nothing prepared in advance – no script, no speech, nothing.  Sound crazy? Well that is what Improvisational Comedians do every day. Improvisational (or “Improv”)  Comedy is a form of theater where a group of actors take the stage with nothing prepared in advance and use audience suggestions to create instant comedy. If you have ever seen the popular television show, “Whose Line Is It Anyway?” then you have seen Improv Comedy.

The skills that allow an improviser to create instant comedy can immensely help any speaker to be more comfortable and powerful from the platform.  Here are three reasons why, if you want to be a more effective speaker, you must learn how to be a great improviser:

1) Improv Comedy, at its core, is about self-expression.  An improviser has only himself on an empty stage. Every idea he puts forth comes from inside of him. The best improvisers realize this and trust their instincts and let their ideas flow out.  Similarly, the best speakers realize that the audience is there to see them. Rather than hide behind other people’s ideas or style, they are 100% themselves as they speak. Many speakers make the mistake of taking acting classes to be more “dramatic” as they speak. The result is a speaker that looks fake and wooden.  Audiences don’t want “dramatic;” they want natural. Practicing Improv Comedy techniques can help you be much more natural.

2) Improv Comedy is an interactive format.  Improvisation may be the only art form where the audience is present at the time of creation. As a result, the audience’s needs, wants, and mood can be taken into account to direct the content. Great improvisers feed off of a crowd’s energy and build content the audience appreciates. The performer pays attention to the audience and makes subtle adjustments as she goes. Speakers would do well to adopt this approach.  Most speakers prepare their speech in a vacuum and deliver it exactly as practiced.   However, every audience is different. If a speaker pays attention to the audience as she is speaking, she can also make subtle adjustments to increase her effectiveness (adjusting pacing, energy, volume, etc.) If you do this, not only will your speech be more powerful, but you will also develop that coveted “rapport and connection” with the audience.

3) Things will go wrong. A speaker who relies solely on what they’ve memorized will be easily thrown by the distractions that invariably happen. If time gets cut, or a cell phone rings, or a heckler demands attention, the speaker will have no response. To an improviser, distractions are just one more tool to use to make their point. A key improv attitude is to “go with the flow.” As a speaker, this attitude will allow you to be unflappable from the stage. You will be deemed a true professional, and audiences will admire your ability to handle interruptions.

These are just three simple ideas that are a powerful way in which Improve Comedy can make anyone a more powerful speaker. There are many more ways related to all aspects of speaking: content, delivery, storytelling, style, humor, etc., but these three are the perfect starting point.  If you have never done or used improv, then consider taking a class.  Not only will you learn useful skills for speaking (and life), but it will be the most fun class you’ve ever taken!

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6 Ways to Improve Your Personal Charisma and Communication Style

Here are six tips for improving your communication style to become more magnetic:

1. Knowing how to improve communication skills will come easier once you become aware of your own communication style. Each person has a unique way of communicating. Listen to your own speech. What sorts of words do you use? Which sort of body language and what tone of voice are you using? Now, think of someone who, in your opinion, is a good communicator. Compare your style to theirs. You’ve just taken an important first step in how to improve communication skills.

2. Now that you are aware of your own style, study the style of those around you. How do the most important people in your life converse? How do they say things? Look for approaches you can model and make your own.

3. Adjust to the other styles of communication. Don’t think it is too late to change your way of conversing because it’s been years. You had to learn to communicate in the first place and you can unlearn certain behaviors or change them. Sometimes we get stuck into a communication rut.

A father once was having a hard time with his teenage daughter. She was growing and he thought she didn’t tell him what was going on in her life. They were in a heated discussion when he asked, “Why didn’t you tell me?” Her answer was that she had, but he was too busy lecturing her to hear her. He learned that adjusting his style to his daughter would involve listening first before jumping right into solving the problem.

4. To build rapport, during a conversation try and match the other person’s movements, posture and verbal style. Don’t do everything they do, but mirror one or two things. For example, if the person gives mostly short answers to questions, you follow suit. Or, maybe they talk at a slower pace than you usually do-slow your speaking speed to match theirs. This may sound simplistic but it is a very potent way to make someone feel very relaxed and comfortable in your presence.

5. The way you communicate at home may not be the same as in a different environment. Make sure you change your style to suit the different setting. Some comments you might want to tell your best friend, in private. Other things can be shared in a group setting. Learn how to improve communication skills by altering your style for the appropriate setting. Many of us know someone who offers far too much information in a group setting.

6. Don’t criticize others for communicating differently. If we all communicated in the same way, we’d soon be bored with each other. Getting a good grasp of your communication style and finding ways to accommodate other peoples’ styles, is a good way to improve your communication skills.

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3 Easy Steps to Add Charisma to Your Public Speaking

Throughout the history of human civilization, people have been expressing their confidence and strength, not only by force, but also by the noble art of public speaking. The orators of ancient Greece were highly respected and valued in the community. Likewise, today’s world leaders are admired and esteemed when they have the power to address the public with poise and conviction. Such a high regard for public speaking makes the average person cringe at the idea of talking in front of an audience no matter how big or small the size. Whether giving a toast at a wedding or delivering a speech to a large assembly, most people make a big deal about public speaking and try to avoid it as much as possible. But public speaking should not cause such a big fuss. Challenging as it may be, public speaking can be done with a few simple guidelines.

Before Making the Speech: Preparation

Like any other endeavor, public speaking requires careful preparation to be successful. Many people would dream of having those “inspired” spontaneous speeches seen in movies; however, such scenes rarely happen in real life. To have at least a decent speech, you should plan well. Even the world’s most famous leaders prepare for public addresses, and most even have teams to work on those plans. Well, even if you don’t have a speech preparation committee, you can prepare for public speaking.

First, you should know for what the occasion the speech is for. The Gettysburg address would definitely not be appropriate for a wedding; thus, a speech has to fit the event where it will be delivered to.

Second, you should examine the audience who will witness the speech. An assembly of academics would not take a perky speaker seriously; one should choose a suitable public speaking style based on the audience.

Third, you should ponder what is being expected in the speech. A farmer’s association would usually not be interested on a speech about the intricacies of bead work; one should carefully study the subject matter to be tackled in public speaking.

Again, dazzling spontaneous speeches rarely happen in real life. Most good speeches have been written before their delivery. While most noted public figures have speech-writing committees, you can make a good speech even without the help of a team of ghostwriters. When writing for public speaking, you should carefully organize the contents of the speech. It usually pays well to begin with a very strong introduction. It is important to catch the audience’s attention early to prevent them from being bored easily. Next, the body should be purposeful. The contents of the speech should relate well and support each other. It is not good to digress too much; though at times some deviations help attract attention when boredom arises.

Lastly, you should make a conclusion that sticks to the mind. No matter how stirring a speech is, it is useless if the people forget it the instant they leave the gathering. Conclusions should give a concise but memorable recap of the body.

Great speakers who persuade and arouse the emotions of their listeners seem like naturals. But, remember, no one is born with a gift to gab. They learned along the way—and so can you.

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Becoming More Charismatic: How to Overcome Nervousness When You Speak In Public

 Even if the speech you have is already prepared and you know everything about it, public speaking can be difficult. Many people are very nervous when they speak in public. Here are some tips for you to overcome your nervous feelings when you speak in front of many people.

Preparing your presentation

1. Center on yourself. Try practicing standing properly – with your feet under the hips directly. This position is the best and most stable for speaking in public. Rehearse this position with somebody or in front of your mirror.

2. Your shoulders should be relaxed. The muscles in the shoulders support directly your larynx, so it has a fast effect on your voice. Shoulders should be rolled out.

3. Warming up the voice. You should treat all your presentations as if they were performances. Charismatic leaders know that people are moved emotionally way before they are moved intellectually.  Prepare yourself by rehearsing. Deeply breathe into the bottom part of the lungs. You feel your rib cage is expanding slightly higher than the navel. You should thrice sigh. Sighing is your signal to the body that everything is okay and it is just perfect to relax. Then make a siren sound, starting from a high note to a lower note at the bottom part of the voice range you have. With enough practice, you will be able to find the low note connecting to the place located right above the navel. This is the natural voice pitch that you have.

Managing meeting skills

1. Directing your voice. Every time you speak, imagine that each word you say is like a beam of laser traveling from your mouth to the end person listening to you. Practice this outlook to be able to reach many people at the same time.

2. Directing your thoughts. Pay attention to your thoughts, especially their beginnings and endings. Make your communication complete and fully rounded.

3. Diction as well as articulation. Convey clearly your message.

During questions

1. Give yourself time and space in breathing.

2. Before answering, slightly breathe out first. When you are flustered or nervous, you usually take in more additional air than you need, and you hold onto that air while you try to think. However, this is not helping you. Usually, this method causes you to panic. Remove this habit by breathing air first before you speak, allowing you to relax and thoughts to come in clearly and more logically.

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How to Impress Others When You Speak

 People expect more of a speaker that just words. Here's how to stand out.

1) Be the message. You must exemplify the principles, values, and ideas that you talk about in order to have credibility in urging others to adopt them.

2) Think like the audience.  Present your ideas from the viewpoint of how they will find them most useful. Realize that things that work for you, may depend upon your situation. Thus, customize new techniques to the world that your audience lives in.

3) Be original. Create your own cartoons and humor.  Tell your own stories.  Use your own activities. Stealing from others is unethical, illegal, and just plain wrong. You can be sued by the author (or cartoonist) for using copyrighted materials, such as cartoons from the newspaper.  And you could find that your presentation follows one with the original versions of material that you planned to use.

4) Create a safe environment.  People learn best when they feel safe to experiment and try new ideas. Treat everyone with respect.  Never damage anyone in the audience, even if this person seems to be disrupting your presentation.

5) Be ethical. Cite references for published information. Obtain a license and pay royalties if you must use copyrighted materials. Realize that other speakers (authors, cartoonists, humorists, entertainers, etc.) depend upon their materials for their livelihood.

6) Let people discover and experience new ideas.  Adults learn by applying what they are being taught. It makes learning more permanent and enjoyable.

7) Be authentic. That is, be yourself, without pretense, without gimmicks, and without theatrics. People can recognize a fake easily.  And when they find one, they leave.

8) Leave the audience impressed with themselves.  Create opportunities for people to be funny, clever, or correct.  Feed the audience set up lines that lead them into being the stars in your program.  Ask question that let them show off what they know. This facilitates adult learning by making people feel special, which opens their minds to new ideas.

9) Keep it simple. People benefit most from techniques that they can use now.

10) Speak to them about them.  Everyone finds their own story the most interesting. If you tell your story, then take them with you by including them in your story. Help them experience what you felt, discover as you learned, and celebrate as if they had won.

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Body Language at Work (Reading people's unspoken words when your livelihood depends on it)

 You can always use body language as a key to success in your work. You could give a good impression, convince clients, and please your boss.  In communication, only 7% are the words and rest of the 93% is accounted for the nonverbal cues, which includes the aspects of speech and body language. 

Appropriate Body Language During an Interview, Meeting Or Presentation

A job interview is usually nerve-wracking. But in order not to be included in the list of rejected applicants, you have to impress your interviewer by being confident. Here are the gestures and body movements you must observe during a job interview.

A firm handshake indicates confidence.  Relax on the chair provided for you, but do not slouch. Slouching reflects laziness. Keep your heap up, and lean slightly forward. Place your hands on your lap, and never in your pocket. The hands-in-pocket gesture signifies nervousness, boredom, and dishonesty. As much as possible, do not cross your legs. But if crossing your legs would help calm your nerves, you may do so but point your body towards the direction of the interviewer. During the conversation, make sure you maintain eye contact to show your interest and eagerness to listen.

Art of Animation

Make use of your hands to punctuate or emphasize what you are saying. You will appear stiff if your hands will stay on your lap during the entire period of the interview. Hand gestures also signifies that you are honest and indeed knowledgeable of what you are talking about. You can do this while sitting or standing. During a presentation, move around, but walk slowly. The greatest presenters are those who can speak confidently with the right timing of body movements and gestures.

Gestures And Movements To Avoid

The wrong gestures, done consciously or unconsciously, could give the wrong impression to your boss, co-workers, and clients. These may be the reason of you getting fired. Therefore, you must avoid the following acts of body language. 

Avoid pointing a finger at somebody, especially your boss.  Even when you are angry or trying to emphasize a detail, it is regarded as a rude gesture. In meetings, refrain from showing signs of boredom and lack of interest. These signs include arms crossed over the chest, eyes on objects other than the person talking or the presentation itself, yawning, signing, drumming the fingers on the table, or tapping your foot.

Signs That You Are Not Doing a Good Job

If you are the presenter in a meeting or an applicant in a job interview, you must observe the body language of your audience as well. Reading their actions and movements could aid you to be aware of their reactions and if you are doing well.

You would detect if the other party is getting bored if their focus of attention is not on you. This is evident by the absence of eye contact. Observe their hands as well. Even if their eyes are on you, but if their hands are busy, it may mean they are thinking of something else. See if their fingers are playing with their pen or drumming on the surface of the table. Boredom is also indicated when the person in front of you begin to slouch back into their chair.

Signs of opposition to your ideas and opinions are also determined when the other party crosses their arms, wrinkle their forehead, and tilt their head. 

However, the signs above sometimes do not reflect how someone really feels. What is important is that you know how to prepare yourself in critical times at the workplace.

For information on how to speak more persuasively, visit: Charisma